My Soshy-Meeds experience

[zesty_pinto]

By the way, so far I've gotten the hang out of social media enough to feel the following differences:

Facebook: people know you from real life, want you to make them feel good about them by talking about how good your life is... or memes.

Twitter: people don't know you and if you aren't reacting to their stuff, then try to be entertaining in the most succinct way possible.

Reddit: people just want you to say what's the most obvious, or the most groupthinky. If not that, then see Twitter.

Never made it through Tumblr to survive there, which was a shame since I wanted a social media that I could use to show off my photography easily and that one was most likely (that and Ello, which I now get reminded still exists because pornbots keep liking my stuff. Thanks, pornbots!)

Comments

[notasupervillain]

I thought instagram was for photos?

[zesty_pinto]

IG is unfortunately a Facebook property and subject to all the sketchy privacy problems FB is wont to do, so I've kept a healthy distance. I'd sooner choose pinterest and I barely even understand how to glean anything useful off of that one.

[notasupervillain]

Agreed on Facebook sketchiness. Honestly, I don't even know what the kids use these days that's not creepy af.

[notasupervillain]

Tumblr: people want you to groupthink about why all the media you love is problematic.

[perniciouslizard]

tumblr's okay but only if you're willing to be kind of merciless about who you follow and who you block, which isn't great for when you're there to showcase art

[zesty_pinto]

That sounds... petty. Sigh.

[padhopper]

That pretty much sums up my lists as well. Facebook is people I have met in real life. I don't add just anyone, I have to be connected in some way. I use A LOT of filters on Facebook. Neighbours are limited, board people are limited, game folk are limited. Family gets to see it all.

Twitter for me, are random mind dumps OR to add people who share a common interest. For instance I add people who were watching Riverdale. We all use the same hashtag and live tweet when the episode airs. It's basically 200 people going omg did you see that?!?

Instagram I have a cat account, a personal account and public account. All get different pics.

Tumblr is a bunch of angst-filled millennials who only have time for other angst-filled millennials who say the exact same thing as the last angst-filled millennial. You are in no way allowed to say something, unless it is exactly what the rest are saying.

And then there is LJ and Dreanwidth. I don't add digital journal people to Facebook or Instagram because I like not seeing TOOOOO much of their lives. I'll follow their random mind dumps on Twitter because to me those words are connected to their digital journal.

Oy vey that was long of me.

[zesty_pinto]

No worries, I appreciate the feedback.

I'm getting a general vibe that Tumblr is very judgmental from my flist feedback, hah!

I'm okay with keeping this place anonymous as well. The last time I had people from online interact with the people I knew in real life, I had this ridiculous conflict of interest that resulted. It's been annoying and I had to decide on filtering out people who knew me in real life from the ones that know me online. It's been a pain.

[padhopper]

SAME!! When I was on LJ, I have access to a daughter of someone I knew IRL. The Mom would use the daughter's password, read my digital journal, and discuss it with people IRL!! She had no boundaries. She discussed my LJ posts with her entire family. I found out what was going on when she called the pharmacy I dealt with and tried to talk to the Priest at the church we attended, about things she was reading. I was livid!! She was all ... well it's there for people to read. Ummmm no its not. It's there for the people I have chosen. Not sneaky people using passwords from someone else to be sneaky.

I had a similar issue with one of my brother's friends. I had the hubby on my Facebook list. The wife was always making comments about what I was posting. I thought, no biggie, she's reading over his shoulder, how my SIL does. One night at my brother's house I caught the wife, sitting in the basement using my brother's computer to log into the hubby's Facebook & leave snide comments.
I went home and deleted & blocked the hubby & have disliked the wife ever since. My brother completely understands. My SIL is all ... she was drinking, people make mistakes, that is so unlike her, give her a chance. Ummm Nooo. Drinking doesn't turn you into someone you aren't. Drinking lowers your inhibitions & shows the world exactly what you are about.

So here I go long commenting again. To say ya. It's a bad scene to mix it all up. 😂