Yeah. It totally sucks, and it's exhausting to keep saying no to people who love you when they suggest things for your wedding that they think will make you happier. And, depending on your cultural background, it can be pretty embarrasing to say that it's cause you can't afford anything else.

In terms of cheap weddings - is it possible to do a destination wedding, with your families, in Mexico/Cuba/something similar? I have friends who did that, and if you do it properly it can be quite inexpensive but still end up with gorgeous photos. Plus, it's a week long holiday on the beach to go with it, with all your family and friends. I think of it as the "between" option that's not eloping but not as expensive as traditional. Though it's not gonna work for lots of families.

I agree about the wedding industry being parasidic. And it hits people who need money for a morgage or kids or (in my case) a working visa. Not old people who've had a lifetime to save. But there's no escaping the pressure if you're born a woman.

Lol I feel less guilty for assuming male then!